At what age can a child decide weather or not to visit the opposite parent?

My daughter 12 doesn't like to visit with her father. Have had a lot issues in the past. She dones't want to be forced to visiting every weekend. I just want to know what her rights are and does she legally have to go. We live in Maine.At what age can a child decide weather or not to visit the opposite parent?
18. when the parenting plan is no longer in effect.

otherwise you have to go to court and have it ammended
ok why did that girl answer "hi" wierdo. The father has all the right to see his daughter but if your daughter does not want to see her father then you have to go to family court and she has to tell them her reasonds and if they find it resanoble enogh then they will fix the visiting day's. Basicly its the court decision to see what its best for your 12 year old. Now, just for you to know, when a girl is in her teenage years, a father has a hudge influence in her life. Now I don't know why she doesnt want to her Dad, but according to many studies a Father influences a whole lot in a teenaguer.At what age can a child decide weather or not to visit the opposite parent?
12
If you have not been to court and the father has not asked for visiting rights then she certainly does not have to visit him, if he takes you to court for visiting rights then the judge would decide what's best. This is a really difficult situation, but unless the court made an order for now your daughter only has to say no.At what age can a child decide weather or not to visit the opposite parent?
In CO. the age is 13. The child may choose which parent she wants to be with. Without having to go to court, but this only applies obviously if the parent have joint custody.
I think she is ok to decide on her own but if the courts have set up the visitation than you will have to go back to court and your daughter will have to say that she doesn't want to see her father. Good Luck!
You'd have to go to court and have her tell the judge she doesn't want to go. If she has a good reason, she may not have to, but in our state, it is the parents right to see their child, regardless of what the child wants.
if there is a custody order or visitation sry to say your daughter doesn't have many rights right now. If you don't make her go you would be violating the court order and that is bad for you if he tries for custody again
If visiting him upsets her, the DONT FORCE HER. He might have had issues in the past, but what if he's doing something to her while shes there and you aren't?
Hi I totally understand except I want to see my dad mor. You should explain to your daughter that there are ppl who really wish they can see there dad more than once every 2 months. I think she has to be a teenager. You should'nt force her though give her a little push but let them have a talk. Let her express her self. I suggest a talk between all three of you; Father mothe and your daughter. But you also have to understand what she is going through as a young adult and what is really behind all of this.
In most states a child can choose which parent to LIVE with at age 12, but it still has to go through the judge...they have the final say, unless the parents can agree. As far as visitation I don't believe that unless there is some kind of abuse going on that they should not spend time with the other parent. As her mom you need to sit them both down and find out exactly why she doesn't want to go. How about family counseling? This might help their relationship. At 12 a lot of kids are too immature to make this kind of decision.
Find out if your daughter has clear reasons for not wanting to see her father.
I have fought in two states, OH %26amp; WV, I won both of them. My son was 14 my daughter was 13. Our state says at the age of 14 a child can choose...however, depending on the maturity of the child, the reasons brought forth to the judge, as young as 12 may be allowed a "one on one" or "face to face" interview with the judge either in his chambers (which is the choice our judge made) or in the courtroom. Most states the age is between 12 %26amp; 14. Since your daughter is 12 I'd say it'll be well worth your effort to file a motion in your courts jurisdiction to modify your parenting agreement, or make an ammendment to your divorce order whichever it's called in your state. When is her birthday? Courts take time giving you a court date. It will be even better if your daughter was 13 at the time of the court hearing. I took my daughter and son to a therapist who could determine the reasons for wanting the change. It takes a neutral party to prove to the judge here that the parents aren't interferring with the childs thought process. aka brain washing



Good luck!
Legally....she has to go if the visitations are set up with the family court systems. Unless there are problems that need to be addressed with both Father and Mother to be present together, maybe at a lunch outing or something, find out what it is that daughter needs to get out of her system and come up with a resolution...there might be something really serious here as to why your daughter is reluctant towards seeing her own father...try talking a little more with your daughter and get to what more of the real roots are to the problems and take it from there...Good Luck and hope things aren't as serious as they may seem. Her nurturing without both of her parents, is a really difficult time to conquer as she grows into her teen tears.
dey should usually try go at 16 or older
Unfortunately, the law does not respect the child's wishes with regard to visitation. Not at any age. CUSTODY is a different matter. Once a child is old enough to speak clearly their reasons for wanting to live with one parent versus the other, the Court will take their wishes into consideration.... regardless of how young they may be. But visitation is a completely separate matter. The other parent is entitled to spend time with the child. Neither the custodial parent or the child can deny him that right without just cause. (abuse or neglect)



A better option would be to get her involved with some extracurricular activities that might take up some of her weekends. Not only will this give you an opening to "renegotiate" the visits with her dad, but it will get her involved in things that could be really good for her. As she gets older, her schedule and responsibilities (high school activities, sports, work, etc) will need to be worked out between you... might as well start now!
There could be a reason why. Please talk to your daughter because something similar to Stegall-s experience could happen. If she is upset about separation a counselor could help put things into perspective for both of you. Some children feel torn between and unfairly forced to choose.
In my state (s.c.)I was 14 when the judge let me decide not to go see mine..He was verbally abusive because he hated my mother for leaving him He made my life miserable.But he paid child support and wanted to get us every weekend For 5 years my mom made me go because the courts said if he pays support he sees me.I can tell you it did more harm than good because I took abuse for something that had nothing to do with me and at 9 years old that was not a good way to live.



I hope this is not the case with your daughter.........If it is the I strongly recommend you go back to court and talk to the judge.........If he is not abusive in anyway the you need to get her in counseling...... ask dad if they can take a break on weekend visits and eventually have dad go to counseling with her.. I hope this helps and good luck.
I think at that age she does have to go. I would think states all have different rules?

We did send my 13 year old clear across the country to see his father, the kid really wanted to see him. His father would not come over here to see him. He has been so good since he got back!! The grass is not always greener.



As far as your problem, I went through this one too (when the kids were younger and ex lived in our state). Sometimes kids will say they do not want to go to make the other parent feel better. Ask her counselor she must be seeing and see what a professional says....If she does not have a counselor why not? Get her one. I feel this is a horrible situation for any child to go through....
you could go to court and have the judge change the visiting between her and her father. They will listen to whatever the child wants.
In most states a child can decide at the age of 12 but that may only apply to which parent they want to live with. what i would do is contact your attorney and ask them. they will be able to tell you your rights in your state. then if they tell you that she is of age to make that decision then go in front of the judge and let your child tell the judge what she wants. Legally her father dose have the right to see her if there is a court order and the only way to let your daughter make that decision is to let her talk to the judge and let them decide. If you allow your daughter to stop seeing her father without permission from the judge then you could be held in contempt of the court order.



I hope that this helps you.

Amy
WELL I DON'T LIVE IN MAIN, BUT I WENT TO MAIN.GOV(FAMILY COURT) AND THERE IS A SECTION OF THE COURTS THAT HOLD MEETINGS TO SEE WHATS IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD. THEY MAY WANT TO TALK TO YOUR DAUGHTER ONE ON ONE AND ASK HER WHY SHE FEELS THIS WAY(just to ensure your not influencing her decision, try calling your local family court and speaking to a clerk)